Think Before You Speak

By : Abu Shazil

One day, while I use to live in a bachelor hostel a friend of mine Mr. Ayub came to me and asked me  to accompany him to another person Mr. Yousaf, he was visiting for some task. I agreed and went along. We reached the person and after hand shake sat in front of him. I picked up the news paper where as my friend initiated discussion with Mr. Yousaf. After quite a while when I was over with the news paper I found that even after a long discussion they were still struck up in the middle of dispute or whatever you call it. I lent my ears to their discussion and at one point found that my friend Mr. Ayub was not getting the point of view of Mr. Yousaf and was taking him wrongly. After sometime once I was quite sure about my observation I decided to interrupt. During their discussion I found a lull and jumped into the discussion. I explained the point of view of Mr. Yousaf to Mr. Ayub and made him understand the scenario. Mr. Ayub, after hearing me, was quite upset and apologised from Mr. Yousaf for not getting him. Mr. Yousaf open heartedly accepted the apology and we came back.

That day I realized that most of the time, most of us, without listening the complete argument of the opponent butt into discussion with preconceived ideas and notions. This practice quite often leads us to hot words and at times to quarrels. We repent later on while it is of no use. The lesson learnt is that whenever you indulge into discussion, dispute or negotiations, clear your mind, shed off preconceived ideas, make yourself unbiased and then involve in negotiations with open heart and clear mind. I am sure and 100% positive that there is no dispute on the globe which can't be negotiated on table and by avoiding quarrels. Try it once and you will find it yourself that the phenomena of initiating negotiations with clean mind slate works amazingly towards positive side and take not very long to resolve the issue.

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